My dad is 77 years old today. Actually, he is my step-dad but that doesn’t matter. He has been the male role model in my life for 29 years so step-dad just doesn’t seem to be an appropriate title for the man who helped me become the person I am today.
With so many marriages ending in divorce today and second, third and even fourth marriages on the rise it is important that the children don’t get lost in shuffle. Our culture today is very accepting of multiple marriages and a his mine and ours extended family. This isn’t the family that God intended for His children, though. One man and one woman for life – that was the plan. With a culture that touts sexuality and immorality at every turn it is no wonder that 50% of marriages end in divorce. The sad part is that the divorce rate among Christians isn’t much lower.
I am not trying to insult anyone or hurt your feelings if you have been divorced, I have been divorced myself. I have made poor choices throughout my life and I am sure there are more on the horizon but the one thing I have learned since my divorce and subsequent marriage is this: If I had been at the spiritual maturity that I am now when I was married the first time I wouldn’t have been married a second time. I know now what a gift from God a good marriage is. Marriage is the product of its environment – you get out of it what you put into it. Of course the grass is always greener on the other side especially if you are not watering your own grass.
I love my husband and I am very happily married. We will be celebrating our 11th anniversary in just a couple of months, but the pain that my divorce caused my children will never be erased from my memory. Even after all this time my divorce affects the lives of my now adult children and it will continue to do so through out their lives. I pray they have learned from my mistakes and will choose Gods way over the selfishness of a divorce when and if they are ever faced with that choice.
If you are having marital problems please take them to the one who created marriage/family – God. He can help and He knows the answers to all of life’s problems…….after all He wrote the book.
SCRIPTURES
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." Matthew 19:8-9
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